Are you thinking about being a surrogate mother?
When a woman decides to become a surrogate, there can be many different reasons, such as an economic gain, personal passion of helping complete another family, satisfaction of pregnancy and childbirth, willing to help a friend or family memeber and/or getting a sense of self-worth and value.
If you decide to pursue surrogacy you should know that there are two types of surrogacy practiced: gestational surrogacy, also known as host surrogacy, in which a woman becomes pregnant through IVF techniques, using either a donor egg or the intended mother’s own egg and carries the Intended Parents’ baby and genetic surrogacy, also known as traditional surrogacy, in which the surrogate’s eggs are used and she is genetically linked with the kid.
To become a surrogate mother you can decide to do an independent surrogacy process or work with an agency, also you can being a surrogate for a friend or family memeber. When a surrogacy agency is used, surrogate mothers and intended parents are screened and you will always have control over what intended parents you will share this journey, because it´s essential to find a compatible match that make for the best possible journey for all involved.
Also, a surrogacy agency will help you to understand and work through the many options available, to negotiate a written contract with your intended parents, coordination of medical treatments before and during pregnancy, so you can concentrate on your relationship with your intended patents in helping them to create their family.
Looking for the right surrogacy agency may seem like a time consuming phase, but it is actually one of the most important phases in the process of becoming a surrogate mother if you want to find the right match for you and feel comfortable during the whole process.
How much does surrogacy cost?
Your intended parents, along with your cost and compensation, will have to pay for the surrogacy agency fees, the psychological screening, medical procedures and screenings for them and you (and egg donor in some cases), lawyer and legal proceedings (i.e. surrogacy contract), as well as a life insurance for you during the pregnancy and delivery.
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One important step of the process is to comply with the surrogacy laws of your countries and prepare a surrogacy contract between you and your intended parents with the help of your lawyer. Each part should have the advice of an independent lawyer. Prior to signing a contract for surrogacy, you make sure your contract addresses important issues such as your reimbursements, who will be responsible for paying medical bills, who will have custody of the child in the event that something happens to the intended parents during the pregnancy, what will happen if you give birth to twins or triplets, what will happen if one party wants to terminate the pregnancy, and what will happen in the event of a miscarriage.
Whether you decide being a surrogate for a friend or relative, going independent or working with a surrogacy agency, you must undertant that the surrogacy is not always an easy process, it´s important that you learn as much as possible before moving forward and decide to being a surrogate mother. You can find a lot of info online in forum, surrogacy communities, blogs, Facebook groups, etc. you also can speak with former gestational carriers, get in contact with a surrogacy agency and/or a lawyer.
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